I see the descriptions people use for themselves in their Twitter handles and often laugh , with generous servings of sarcasm . These descriptions are often the "time in point" descriptions than retrospective descriptions. I often keep evaluating my description , because thats a unbiased buffed mirror of your persona.
There is one word i will use my description with all fairness, "restless nomad" . I have lived in 5 cities in 43 years, lived in 19 houses , love 2 languages both i can't read but speak and understand well , Urdu and Punjabi . 19 trips to US and 5 years in Australia , from sleeping on newspapers next to toilets in a second class unreserved indian railway coaches to Flat bed business class A 380 travels , from "near the station" 100 Rs lodge to Suites in Ritz Carlton . From winter evenings in Chowk in Lucknow to spring evenings in Times square , destiny's been Kind , i could say .
One thing however is constant . People . They are not same in how they come across however there is a huge similarity . I will not generalise because unqualified generalisation is a crime. I look back at some of the people whom left an indelible mark on my persona and try to summarise their commonalities and distinctions.
In people, a few traits are common, one is layers . everyone has layers and with layers we have an illusion that our outermost layer is what the world will see and believe in . That illusion is a killer ....one reason i feel good relationships turn into bad is that we discover a layer which is so different to the outer layer . One benchmark of a lovable person is have minimal layers . No one has just one layer but yes I can say , I have reduced my layers in last 13 years .
I have never hidden my phases scared child, silent teenager , brat phase, nymphomaniac playboyish phase, being God phase,emotional trash phase and now the menopausal man phase . People also tend to have benign willful negligence to the true layers just to keep a relationship going ..i do too at times but because walking out of that relationship will cause me more harm than good ....
Everyone also feels i am a Ghazal sadist , I love some good bollywood too ...for special memories ...i so wish i born either a Bong or a Mallu ...
Btw , I will be a good RJ , i should try that....
In people, a few traits are common, one is layers . everyone has layers and with layers we have an illusion that our outermost layer is what the world will see and believe in . That illusion is a killer ....one reason i feel good relationships turn into bad is that we discover a layer which is so different to the outer layer . One benchmark of a lovable person is have minimal layers . No one has just one layer but yes I can say , I have reduced my layers in last 13 years .
I have never hidden my phases scared child, silent teenager , brat phase, nymphomaniac playboyish phase, being God phase,emotional trash phase and now the menopausal man phase . People also tend to have benign willful negligence to the true layers just to keep a relationship going ..i do too at times but because walking out of that relationship will cause me more harm than good ....
Everyone also feels i am a Ghazal sadist , I love some good bollywood too ...for special memories ...i so wish i born either a Bong or a Mallu ...
Btw , I will be a good RJ , i should try that....
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