Usually my posts are my notes to myself , Sometimes they find an audience with people who read them as well and rhymes with their thoughts . In my evolution over years , some thoughts have changed and some have remained the same over years . It seems my "Single Layered" individual reference had a common follow up question, if we seek single layered friends , won't we be left with only a handful?
Today's post is a continuation of same thought .
I have found it hard to comprehend the qualities of people , who have a large social circle and still remain single layered and uncomplicated . Todays time and age determines the strength of your social circle by number of people who either like your facebook posts or follow you on instagram or twitter. I recollect a learning from childhood, which said, one should always three kinds of friends , One like "Karna", who support you without a question, irrespective of your pursuit, right or wrong, they will support you. The other friend should be like " Krishna", who guides you, coaches you, shows you a perspective which others won't, but doesn't fight for you. Third kinds are Sudama , who don't befriend you for your position, your means and your social stature . Most people we share a hefty laugh or a laughterful beer session are what I call "Homeopathic Acquaintances", just like homeopathy , they are neither beneficial nor harmful. They are just there , a mere bystander in the journey of your life. In some cases, bystanders will become close friends, who won't judge you, won't question and assume the roles of either a krishna, A karna or a Sudama. In most cases you also play the same role as friends in your life . The fact is the that the overall crowd of bystanders is swelling in everyone's life but true friends are diminishing.
The other kind of friends are ones whose friendship had a planned obsolescence . They befriended you for a reason , a purpose and when that purpose or phase is over , they move on. Sometimes such friends and loved ones inflict more damage on you than ones who were never your friends ...
Third, I also can't seem to relate to people who are trying to be nice and pleasant to everyone. I categorise them as "Plastic"" They never reach a situation of complete disconnect, intellectual and social . The ones who tries to make everyone happy, makes no one happy . In my view , you are known by the foes you keep. If you have taken a strong stand in life , There have to be people who will dislike you and demean you. Not everyone will agree with your conviction , so be it . There is a Hindi saying, stones are thrown on a fruit bearing tree and never a barren tree. I am not necessarily in the race of become universally popular , I do take strong stand most times and do disconnect completely with people , I cant relate to .They could be my sibling or a very close friend or a relative . The firm stand is always driven by the conviction of my value system .
कुछ फ़ैसला तो हो कि किधर जाना चाहिए , पानी को अब तो सर से गुज़र जाना चाहिए ....
तोहमत लगा के मुझ पे, जो दुश्मन से दाद ले , ऐसे दोस्तों को अब चले जाना चाहिए .........
तोहमत लगा के मुझ पे, जो दुश्मन से दाद ले , ऐसे दोस्तों को अब चले जाना चाहिए .........
I have these three categories very clearly around me , friends , rare gems , I call them "Mavericks" . In their own right , in their own conviction, they are strong individuals, not necessarily popular , not necessarily well spoken .In their actions, they are non judgemental . Second , acquaintances, I like them and always try and find friends amongst them . Third, my foes. I don't believe in an eye for an eye, I believe in " Jaw for a tooth". The deterrence value finds it origin in the humility of my roots . The Jamna paar upbringing taught me .....
लबकुशा हूँ तो इस यक़ीन के साथ, क़त्ल होने का हौसला है मुझे।
Life is a short journey ....travel light .....in things and in people......
Today's song is a change , I don't always relish just ghazals , well written songs too ....
ये मोह मोह के धागे तेरी उँगलियों से जा उलझे
ये मोह मोह के धागे
तेरी उँगलियों से जा उलझे
कोई टोह टोह ना लागे
किस तरह गिरह ये सुलझे
है रोम रोम इकतारा..
है रोम रोम इकतारा
जो बादलों में से गुज़रे..
ये मोह मोह के धागे
तेरी उँगलियों से जा उलझे
कोई टोह टोह ना लागे
किस तरह गिरह ये सुलझे
तू होगा ज़रा पागल, तूने मुझको है चुना
तू होगा ज़रा पागल, तूने मुझको है चुना
कैसे तूने अनकहा, तूने अनकहा सब सुना
तू होगा ज़रा पागल, तूने मुझको है चुना
तू दिन सा है, मैं रात
आना दोनों मिल जाएँ शामों की तरह
ये मोह मोह के धागे
तेरी उँगलियों से जा उलझे
कोई टोह टोह ना लागे
किस तरह गिरह ये सुलझे
की ऐसा बेपरवाह मन पहले तो न था
की ऐसा बेपरवाह मन पहले तो न था
चिट्ठियों को जैसे मिल गया
जैसे इक नया सा पता
की ऐसा बेपरवाह मन पहले तो न था
खाली राहें, हम आँख मूंदे जाएँ
पहुंचे कहीं तो बेवजह
ये मोह मोह के धागे
तेरी उँगलियों से जा उलझे
कोई टोह टोह ना लागे
किस तरह गिरह ये सुलझे
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